Atlanta Urban Spice

By: Spiice Member
Two for One

With the lack of "good" black men in most communities across the U.S.; too many
in jail, countless gay or DL, and a host of lost, confused, lazy and unfaithful black men.
Could a possible solution for sistahs be to agreeably share a "good" black man with a
girlfriend or acquaintance? It may sound far fetch, but I'm curious as to what you ladies
think. All thoughts are welcomed.



In cities like Atlanta,GA where the ratio of women to men is something close to 20 to 1.
I constantly find myself asking sistahs how do they cope in that type of environment.

The Ratio Factor-
A good friend of mine who shall remain nameless, said that she was giving up on men
all together in Atlanta, obviously because too many brothers in the A are not reaching
to the level of "man" she would like to take home to mama. She's a 30 year old gorgeous
executive, no kids, owns a home, good job, sophisticated, exercizes daily and listens
mostly to jazz and reggae, and like's to go out to more than the movies and applebees.
As she put's it, she has very little in common with a lot of the brothers she meets. She
says it's rare to meet a good man who she feels matches her flava and too many men in
ATL are out looking for one thing, sex.

All the good ones are taken-
So what's a girl to do? The well has been left dry and and all the "good" ones have been
snatched up. So many sistahs are left with, well, what's left! The dude who just got out of
jail trying to get his life together; the grown nicca still acting and dressing like he's 15 and
living with mama, aunti, uncle; the smoker who smokes all day all night, but can't take you
out to dinner; the questionable nicca looks like he hiding something, a wife- girlfriend - or on
the down low, or worse STD; the thug, sells drugs, needs to get bailed out once a week, no
job, and no car; the bachelor, mind blowing sex, but no real plans that involve YOU, and of
course the lame nicca can't dress, got no sex appeal, and acts like a dork. Take ya pick.

The Good man
I've heard my lady friends kick that "all men are dogs" mumbo jumbo since high school. And
in some ways they are right. But there are good men out there. And yes many of them are
snatched up; some are happily snatched up and others are just on lock down. It's understandable
that in a society where good women out number good men disproportionately, that cat fights are
bound to happen. Divorce, love triangles, cheaters, liars, deciet, haters, jealousy, etc., much of
this is a result of a lack of good, availble men. Women are even fighting to keep the bad men.

As black men increasingly loose the battle against the system, many are left confused by the
time they reach their thirties. And of course the good brothers who managed to beat the system
become a hot commodity. He's educated, he's ambitious, he's respectful, he has a career, he
own's things, and has plans for his future, and more than likely somebody's either got him on lock
or trying to get him locked down.

Two for one
With that in mind, being one of the "good" ones. At least I think so and I haven't had any complaints
yet. I did some deep soul searching to write this. Is it possible that the answer to this problem of not
having enough "good" black men be for sistahs to share a man. Yep i said it share a man. One man
two ladies (three if ya'll can handle it). I know what ya'll thinking, everyman's fantasy. Well from some
of the ladies that I've spoken too, it doesn't sound like a bad deal. As a matter of fact it's ideal for
everyone who can agree to it.

What's the plus side
First off, shake loose all that moral BS and the taboo thinking and broaden your perspective.

The Advantages

-Three very good friends
-There's always someone to hang with
-Awesome Sex
-Travel companions
-If someone has a child, some extra help
-Help with rent or mortgage
-Wonderful Sex
-A mediator during disagreements
-A spicing up a dulling relationship
-Potential Business partners
-Extra financial support
-Did I mention... great Sex
-and I'm sure you thought of something too

The Down side
-uh... I can't think of any
:)


On a more serious note.

With drugs, crime, disease, unemployment economic stress, and countless other demons
plaguing our communties. It's crazy to see so many sistahs raising children alone, single,
and not by choice but by circumstance, men often in need of "more" from their relationships,
couples struggling to stay together. It's easy to say that men need to get their acts together
and women need to keep looking "he's out there". And there is some truth to that, but I propose
the Two for One concept for those of you who are open minded, financially stable, sexually free,
and want to spice things up in your relationships.

Finally, What are your thoughts?

By: Spiice Member
When a woman takes charge in bedroom?!?!?!?
For all the str8 men... do you have a problem when a women toss your salad?!?!
just a thought.....

Do you consider yourself a "Nasty gurl"?? What do you consider to be a "Nasty Gurl" My perception of a Nasty Gurl isn't just the act itself. I consider nasty to be the "connection" that is shared between both parties of whomever involved. Slobbin him down...while staring in his eyes...working the lips just right so he can enjoy every angle of the blow job...getting that wood wet...playing around with it with your tounge...Maybe he wants a slight grip around his neck?? Maybe he likes to be rode backwards and you look back and talk shit at the same time...lol? It's more to it but I would like your view on the "Nasty Gurl" can any ladies admit that they are one? I am and proud of it! lol

By: Spiice Member
What thing or combination of things is the ultimate turn on for you? What is it that gets you right to that point where no matter what you do, you can't get your mind off of gettin' down and dirty? For some it may be a particular body feature. For others it may be attire.Far too often, i have come across ladies that think getting butt ass'd naked is the key element to turning the "on" switch. True! That may be a good start at times. I may be in the mood to just get right to it but typically I am the visual man. What I see and what I hear is what does it but I don't necessarily want to see it all from jump. I actually am turned on more with some clothing than none at all. The stockings/garters and heels are a killer!!! LOL! Fellas? Am i alone on this one or what? Ladies, what turns you on most when looking at men/women?

Its funny that so many men feel that women have a hidden agenda when it comes having a check up..(pap smear)...Although, their are some sexy doctors out there...Shout out to Doctor Brown..Lawwwwwwwwwwwrd! lol But, I don't think I would make it my duty to satisfy urges with my gyno...(Ms.Halle Berry) lol

I was talking with my girlfriend yesterday and somehow the topic of orgasm came up. She said she has met many women that don't know what a orgasm feels like. I once saw this study on t.v that true enough ...many women would love to experience it. It was a 40 year old women that was interested in the study...they had her strapped to this bed they jolted her a few times with the "O-juice" Next thing you know she was sweating and licking her lips and her legs began to shake...That was some funny stuff...Well many women are not able to experience a "O" because of the way they are built...for example tilted uterus...So therefore it takes alot of mental as well as physical stimulation to even get close...my girlfriend went on to say that she gets a "O" when she has anal and vaginal stimulation at the same time...But for a fact clitoral stimulation does it...and it's not just the 'flick" either...Many women like to recieve head just as men do...very wet and a decent amount of friction...So Spiices...How do you give a "O" or have you experienced a "O"

By: Spiice Member

I recall when I was younger, i would do things that probably were not the brightest of things to do or could cause me some type of harm in the future. We have all done silly things as kids cause we knew no better. Even as a young adult I did things while throwing caution to the wind. I don't know how many times I would take a road trip and would make it a point to see how quick I could get from point A to B. Police???? Who cares??? LOL! Now I am older and I value my drivers license. Yes I still speed but in moderation. However, I still have things that I do just because of the thrill, excitement and pleasure that is brought. These things fall under the heading of Paraphilia.

Have you ever been in public with your spouse, significant or BFF and they aroused you to the point where you had to have them no matter what???!! The desire was so great that you could not wait to get home to take part in their essence? Maybe you were on a road trip or just driving and had to pull over? Perhaps you were at work and the thought of them made you call them and say, "come meet me". Maybe, the two of you planned to do something different or wild just to spice the life up. I have been there and each time was great in it's own way!

How about head in a car with tinted windows while sitting in rush hour traffic? Sex on a picnic table in a park in the rain? On a blanket in the middle of the park? Various office parking lots? New homes that have not been completed as of yet. A nice touch session in the movies? How about (and I dont suggest everyone try this) but being ridden in a car while driving? All of these give a great rush and tend to leave the most lasting of memories. If you think you can get away with it, I would suggest trying at least one of these if not all except maybe the driving.

Anyone else out there have suggestions or maybe a story to tell of their wildest of adventures? For the sake of time, I didnt go into detail of mine but will be happy to discuss any of them in detail. LOL!

Do you consider yourself a Nympho? My favorite author is Zane and boy does it take you there! Do you feel the need to slip off at the oddest moments to pleasure yourself? What puts you in the zone? While reading this book this character was totally addicted..to the point that she would be at work in her office and grab her statue on her desk and masturbate with it. Or maybe you give your S.O head while their driving..or a quickie while she's cooking in those favorite shorts that shows her delicious curves...lol Now, I'm not the one to judge but I am guilty of this spontaneous desire..lol So tell us your Nymphotic experience!!

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When I was younger NO one ever told me that it was ok to TOUCH MYSELF..infact I was always told NOT to TOUCH MYSELF....and now at the tender age of 36 I can say that it's been almost 10 years now that I've been enjoying the ART of touching myself......just was wondering if anyone else out there was taught the same.....

Ok Wow..ummm...Clearly this woman has had some bad situations and I feeeeeeeeel her! There are so many "men" AND "women" that feel that they are the ultimate TKO in the bedroom. In the beginning you really do not know what all is good or bad..its all experimental. When you learn to understand your body and what pleases you..you fall into this aggravated..no tolerence...I'm going to slap the taste out your mouth if you don't get it together! The phone situation..hell I've done that...I even reached over and grabbed the remote and turned to a comedy show just to prove my point...lol Ok I know your saying Damn Dee!! Wellllll I'm sorry. #1 I don't brag..and I don't feel that it's necessary to do so...because not everyone likes the same things.

For example: Eating p***y
Some women (like on porn videos) like the flick of the tounge..no saliva..it drives them wild...There is no way I can get satisfaction out of that... Some of us want the suction and juices running down and get a lil ass play...Some don't like ass play...

But, is this the reason why their is more lesbians coming out?
WOW thats something to think about???
Ladies and Gents..weigh in...