All of us want to be successful as swingers. It doesn't matter how often, with whom, where, or in what style we swing. One of the nicest things about our lifestyle is that most of us relate to each other with understanding, thoughtfulness, and common courtesy; just as we ourselves wish to be treated. If you employ the following suggestions or adapt them to your own situation, you should become a welcome participant.

1. BE COURTEOUS - Be aware that this is a lifestyle full of insecurities, uncertainties and fears. Courteously is how we all want to be treated - with kindness, thoughtfulness, understanding and sensitivity. In essence, courtesy is our treating people the way we ourselves want to be treated. Remember the Golden and Silver rules.

2. BE FRIENDLY - Whether or not you are personally interested in swinging with someone, be polite. You never know, you may share many other interests or
you may meet that person again, and they may introduce you to someone with whom you ARE compatible and do wish to share time.

3. RESPOND TO ALL INVITATIONS - RSVP means please reply to the invitation. It does NOT mean reply only if you plan to attend. The most frustrating part of hosting, be it a party, a group or another couple, is people who are discourteous enough not to respond, PERIOD. Good etiquette and good social courtesy DEMAND you respond, by either calling or writing to say yes OR no.

4. NEVER ARRIVE EMPTY HANDED - When you go to someone's home for a party, ask if there is something you can bring. (it's amazing how many supplies, other than food are used up at an average party.) If you are not going as a couple, a bottle or chasers would be great!

5. GO PREPARED - Take whatever you personally are going to need with you. Carry a small overnight bag for lingerie or robe, hairbrush, comb, toothbrush, cologne, intimate cleansing articles, condoms, etc. If you plan to stay over, sleeping bags or blankets and pillows are necessities.

6. CLEANLINESS - Need I say more???

7. RESPECT OTHERS' FEELINGS - Beware, not everyone is comfortable in all situations, Keep your eyes open for signs that your partner, as well as others, is relaxed and enjoying themselves. If someone is not comfortable, try helping them over the rough spots. Remember, you were a beginner once yourself. If it is obvious that things are not working out, remain polite and courteous; but alert the host. Keep in mind that not all people feel the same about things.

8. DON'T BE PUSHY - If you are interested in swinging with someone, let them know in an inviting way; if they are interested, they will respond positively. If they are not and say "No, thank you," do not ask WHY. No amount of sweet talk or coercion on your part will change their mind and will probably work against you. Everyone has the right to say "NO" at all times, to anyone, without explanation. Do not ever forget that.

9. ONLY DO WHAT IS FUN FOR YOU - Do not allow yourself to become sexually involved with anybody that you are not interested in. There is no reason to involve yourself in a scene that you are not comfortable with. You are in the lifestyle to enjoy yourself, so only do what you want, when you want and with whom you want.

10. HOW AND WHY TO SAY NO - One of the basic etiquette's in swinging is the right of anyone to say "No". Experience has taught most people that everybody is not right for everybody else. Improper handling of a situation, however, can lead to a lot of hurt or very bad feelings. The swing world accepts the premise that everyone has the right to say "No" to anyone at anytime and it should be done with a simple "No, thank you". Never give an explanation, because that is what usually causes the problems and the pain.

11. ALCOHOL OR DRUGS - Most of us do not use drugs, although some of us drink socially. At times, a few drinks are nice to help you "relax". Over-indulging may hamper your physical abilities, as well as offend or turn other people off to you. If you have to over indulge in order to participate in swinging, you are involved in the wrong lifestyle.

12. PRACTICE SAFE - It is up to us to protect ourselves as well as our partners. The use of protection should not offend anybody. Anyone not willing to take this precaution is acting selfishly and irresponsibly.Unless you are apart of a couple, at no other time will this be accepted. You will be escorted out and banned from future events.

13. ENJOY YOURSELF - Most important, have a good time, act out your fantasies, explore your own sexuality and enjoy everything this lifestyle has to offer with enthusiasm, laughter and a positive attitude.

1. Anyone found to be in possession of a firearm or other dangerous weapon will be asked to leave promptly.

2. Harassment, stalking, and otherwise socially disturbing behavior will not be tolerated at any events. Members or their guests who are observed or described on more than one occasion having acted or who are acting in an inappropriate manner will be asked to leave promptly.

3. Slandering other members on site or offsite is grounds for permanent removal from PAE provided that multiple instances are accurately described in email form to the organizer.

4. Drugs, illegal narcotics, and other illegal items will not be tolerated. Observed offenders will be promptly asked to leave and repeat offenders will be removed from PAE

5. Any member or guest of a member who is observed having consumed unsafe amounts of alcohol will be heavily encouraged to leave an event, will be escorted home, or a cab will be called on their behalf and cost.

6. Any member who consistently RSVPs to an event and fails to show up consistently, will be removed from the group after their 3rd failure to attend. They will be allowed to return to the group after a period of time judged by the organizer. Equally, members who are inactive past 5 months will be removed.

7. Advertising on the message board or at an event will not be tolerated and repeat offenders will be removed from the site.

8. Enjoy yourselves! Everyone deserves to laugh and have a great time!

(Random Rant) It's 2010 and many men still trash talk about their performance, oral skills and wood...When comes down to it..many women end up dissappointed. In fact their are women in their 30's and still haven't experienced the BIG O" Why is this?? Are women not in tu...ne with their bodies or is the man just inexperienced?

By: Spiice Member
When I was younger NO one ever told me that it was ok to TOUCH MYSELF..infact I was always told NOT to TOUCH MYSELF....and now at the tender age of 36 I can say that it's been almost 10 years now that I've been enjoying the ART of touching myself......just was wondering if anyone else out there was taught the same.....